The Complete “Yes, No, Maybe” list featured in our upcoming Sex Issue
Yes, No, Maybe: Fun Times Had By All
As Dan Savage of Savage Love says if you want to keep things hot, especially with a partner with different desires, you have to be G.G.G. good, giving and game. Basically, skilled, generous and up for anything under the right conditions. What excites you? What are your hell-no’s? Which would you want to receive and which would you rather give? Here is a list to start up a good stay-cation.
For each category, think about:
1. Are you are interested? Yes, no, maybe?
2. Would want to give or get receive this or top/bottom(if it applies)?
3. Have you experienced this before?
4. What conditions would you have?
Write (Y)ES, (N)O, (M)AYBE by each one and put a date on your list so you can see how your tastes change and stay the same.
age play
anal intercourse
anal play
ball spreading
bathing with others
being woken up by sex
biting
blindfolds
body paint
bondage
breast whipping
breath control
caning
caressing
chest, breasts and/or nipples touched or rubbed
circle jerks
clamps
clit pumping
cock & ball torture
cock rings
communicating sexual fantasies to/with partner(s)
cracking a whip
cross-dressing
crotch smelling
cuddling
cunnilingus
cybersex
delayed orgasm
digital cameras
dildos
docking
doggie style
dominance/submission
double penetration
dripping hot wax
ejaculating (coming) on or in a partner’s(s’) body(ies)
enemas/douche
erotic dancing
exhibitionism
extended orgasms
external prostate stimulation
eye gazing
face sitting
fantasizing
felching
fellatio with penis
fellatio with strap-on
finger-fucking
fisting, anal
fisting, vaginal
flirting
flogging
food items
forced chastity
frottage (dry humping/clothed body-to-body rubbing)
gender play
getting pornography/erotica from a partner(s)
getting sexual images of a partner(s) in my email or on my phone
giving pornography/erotica to a partner(s)
giving sexual images to a partner(s) in their email or on their phone
glory holes
golden showers
group sex
hair pulling
hand job
having a partner cross-dress during sex
having a partner ejaculate (cum) on or in my body
Having a partner masturbate in front of/with me
having a partner wear something that covers their eyes
having a partner’s mouth or tongue on my breasts or chest
having my movement restricted
hickeys
holding hands
hot wax
hugging
ice cubes
invisibility/ignoring
kissing
kissing or touching neck
kissing, cheek or face
kissing, closed-mouth
kissing, open-mouth
kneeling
knife play
lacing up corset
lap dancing
leather, rubber, or latex
licking feet
lingerie
listening to sex
loud sex
making porn
manual sex (hands or fingers on testes)
manual sex (hands or fingers inside rectum)
manual sex (hands or fingers inside vagina)
manual sex (hands or fingers on or around anus
manual sex (hands or fingers on penis or strap-on)
manual sex (hands or fingers on vulva)
massage
massage with sensual oils
masturbating in front of/with a partner
masturbating together
masturbating with a vibrator
missionary position
morning sex
mouth or tongue on a partner’s breasts or chest
multiple orgasms
music
· soft
· loud
negotiating sex
nibbling ears and neck
nipple clamps or clothespins
nipple pumping
online sex
• in chat room
• in IM
• on cell phone
oral sex (to anus)
oral sex (to penis or strap-on)
oral sex (to testes)
oral sex (to vulva)
outdoor sex
over-the-knee spanking
packing a dildo in your 501s
pain
partner(s) reading or viewing pornography
paying for sex
penis pumping
piercings
pinching a partner (s) or using any kind of clamp on them during sex
play parties
playing with sex toys
polishing boots
poo action
punishment
putting on a condom
putting on makeup
quiet sex
reading erotica or pornography (alone or partnered)
reapplying your lipstick
restricting the movement of a partner
rimming
role play
saran wrap
scratching
seduction
sensory deprivation
sex at parent’s house
sex at work
sex during menstruation
sex in secret
sex in water
sex self-help books
sex toys ( vibrators, dildos, etc.)
shaving
sixty-nine
slapping or spanking in the context of sexual pleasure
smoking after sex
snapping on a glove
snowballing
soft touch and stroking
spanking
spooning position
strap-on sex
stripping
sucking labia
sucking nipples
swallowing cum
talking dirty
teabagging
thigh licking/teasing/play
threesome
tickling with feathers
tit torture
touching or rubbing a partner’s the breasts, chest and/or nipples
tribadism (scissoring, rubbing naked genitals together with a partner)
triple penetration
un/showered sex
uniforms
urethra over nipple
vaginal intercourse
vibrators
voyeurism
wearing a butt plug
wearing something that covers my eyes
wrestling or “play fighting”
writing erotica
writing in a journal about sex
